Thursday, July 30, 2015

July Wrap Up

July is nearly over and it's been the hottest month in Washington. Because of all the sunshine, our container garden is doing quite well. We harvested early bird and cherry tomatoes, green beans, jalapenos, English cucumbers, lemon cucumbers, rosemary, and bell peppers. We've really enjoyed eating all the fresh produce, especially Ella. She loves the tomatoes. She eats them as fast as I pick them.


A couple of weekends ago Ella got to spend some time with one of her favorite people in the world, her cousin Vivien. They played at Gramme and Grandpa's house running around outside in the summer evening.



Gramme bought Ella and Vivi matching pink Adirondack chairs for the deck. Ella really loves hers. Gramme will have to buy another one soon, because Ella is going to have another cousin this December, a sweet baby girl! We are all thrilled!! 


 A week ago, I finally got to go to my first paint night. Many of my friends had been to one and I always thought they looked like a lot of fun, so when my friend, Leslie, invited me to hers, I was super excited to attend! We painted beautiful beach scenes and the best part was that the artist leading the class, let us choose our own special object for the painting. I painted a palm tree, while others painted beach chairs. It was nice to be able to personalize ours just the way we wanted. I met so many nice women and had a great time! Thanks Leslie!!
 One of my dear friends, Katie, is a nail tech and she's so good at what she does. Recently I found a photo on Pinterest of some pretty nail art and she replicated it for me. The filter on this photo makes it kind of hard to see, but I have three coral colored nails, the middle nail is gold glitter, and my ring finger is white with gold stripes. Simple things like pretty nails can really make a gal happy. 


Last week Ella participated in a week-long wilderness camp. It was four hours each day of swimming, hiking, crafts, picnics, sing-a-longs, and park play.


The best part of camp was that her buddy, Dash, joined her. They greeted each other with hugs each morning. 


Ella came home each afternoon with a jewelry items made of beads. She said it was her favorite thing to do at camp. 


Uncle Brett came for a visit last week. He was in Bend, OR the week prior for his buddy's wedding, and then he spent a week with us before taking the train to Seattle to spend a week at Radar Lake for work. 


 Ella is obsessed with her Uncle. She wanted to spend a much time with him as possible. 





Last Saturday, after learning of the death of such an inspirational, amazing little girl, I walked out to my parents' deck and witnessed this amazing sky. It was just what I need to give me some peace and calm after such an emotional day. You can read about Gwendolyn's much-too-short life with SMA, her amazing parents and sister, and the wonderful charity they've created for their daughter and every person affected by Spinal Muscular Atrophy HERE. The world will not be the same without Gwendolyn. Fly free, beautiful butterfly.


 Brett's birthday is August 3rd, but because he spends nearly every birthday at Radar Lake (which doesn't sound too shabby) we celebrated early with brownies and Mexican Train. 



On Sunday, before Brett boarded the train for Seattle, we had a family hike. Ella was happy to walk Moco (Eric & Tina's dog) who we watched overnight while they were in Seattle. 





Bon voyage, Brett! Until next time...


 The moon last night was glorious. Beautiful, shining, almost full. Ella was inconsolable at bedtime. She misses her dad. She misses her brother. She's only four-years-old and her world has been rocked. We phoned Jeff (who is in another state working night shift) and she told him about the beautiful moon in the sky. It was the only thing she could say though her tears. Jeff said, "You know what, sweetheart? I see the same moon. In the same sky." My heart melted. I saw her face relax and her tears stop. Her daddy knew exactly what she needed. I couldn't help but think of how much Nicholas loved the moon as well. I am sure he placed pace in both their hearts. 


After Ella went to bed, I went outside and gazed up at the night sky. My eyes fell upon the moon and I sobbed. Because it's usually cloudy in Washington, summer time is the best time to see the moon. Nicholas used to love to stay up late and lie on a blanket in the grass of our backyard and look at the moon. It enchanted him. He thought it was amazing. Last night it enchanted me too. In a way it never has before. I felt like Nicholas was looking at that moon. Him in Heaven. Me on Earth. It gave me comfort, but at the same time, it filled me with such profound sadness. I would have loved to gaze at that amazing moon with him by my side, holding my hand, listening to his voice tell me how pretty it was. I stood outside on the grass with bare feet, in my pajamas, in our front yard for quite some time. I cried and looked up at the moon and talked to my first born.  It felt good. It felt cathartic. After awhile I began to see a cross of celestial light in the moon, one horizontal line, one vertical, with the round moon in the center. It was a magical, spiritual experience and in that moment I felt close to Nicholas. I could see why he was so mesmerized with the moon. I was mesmerized too. I saw the moon with new eyes, the eyes of a grieving mother of a boy gone much too soon. A boy who loved the moon. 


Saturday, July 18, 2015

Oregon Coast Summer Vacation


 Last week we went on our 2nd annual beach vacation with the Harkins family. We kicked off our vacation with an afternoon of paddle boarding on Lacamas Lake while we waited for Jeff to return from working on the east coast. We all had a blast! The kids loved swimming and paddling all over the lake, Hank was a paddle board champ; at five-years-old, he could turn his board every which way and guided it back to the dock with ease. I was impressed!








Jeff arrived home very late Saturday night and so when Ella awoke Sunday morning, she was SUPER happy to see her daddy again after six weeks!


Sunday morning, we loaded our vehicles and set off for the Oregon coast. I was giddy to have Jeff home for a whole week! 



The first stop on our vacation was four days in a beautiful home built in the 1900's in Seaside. When we arrived we immediately walked out to the beach to check out the ocean. We were lucky to have a private beach just steps away from the house where the kids could explore. 







 After checking out the house and the beach, we went into the town for some lunch.


Then we walked down to the ocean front and the kids were so happy to find the swing sets on the beach.





I love all these photos of Ella dancing in the surf...there's no shortage of happiness on her face.










We also visited the little Seaside aquarium and the highlight was getting to feed the seals. If you took too long feeding them , one would splash his flippers and get you wet, they were adorable.





The view from the back of the house we rented was absolutely stunning





We were so happy to be all together again!






We love these dear friends of ours. I met Rod & Catie in college at EWU and we became inseparable. Now we're "all grown up" and living the dreams we talked about all those years ago. Vacationing with them is effortless. Their three kids are so well behaved and Ella gets along with them perfectly. We are so grateful for their love and friendship and feel so lucky to have the best vacation buddies a family could ask for.








Ella loved playing Frisbee with her daddy. She's got quite an accurate throw.


Isn't our rental absolutely adorable?!





At low tide, we took the kids on a long walk from the estuary by our house to the ocean. The first time we walked there, we found four perfect sand dollars. It was kind of amazing considering how many were broken along the way. In all my years of vacationing at the Oregon coast I can hardly ever recall a time when we found shells intact. Catie mentioned that she believed Nicholas put them there for us, one for each child, to let us know he was there with us in spirit, as he absolutely loved the beach. In fact, I had booked this trip just two weeks before he died, and he asked me every day until his death when we were leaving on our trip. When I told him it was months away, he would sigh and say, "Awwww," with disappointment in his tone. To not have him there with us this year was completely bittersweet. I thought about him constantly. In everything we did, I thought about how much he would have enjoyed it. I imagined his brilliant smile, his toes in the sand, bossing the kids about, and his laughter and joy in being in the place he loved the most. While we had a wonderful time, my heart ached for just one more vacation with our son. The next day we walked the same path and found four more perfect sand dollars, one for each adult, eight total...which felt like a clear confirmation that Nicholas was sending his heavenly love and grace to us all. I found this poem about sand dollars which is simply beautiful: 


We found all kinds of crabs and sea life on the beach too...this one was the smallest we saw.


Ella really enjoyed the sand and sea





Hank found a crab


There's nothing like a beach fire and s'mores



  
A beach sunset makes everything feel right in the world.


After getting all sandy, the kids loved bathing in the beautiful, old antique bath tub.


One afternoon, we all wore our NEVER GIVE UP tees and headed into town to bring some awareness to SMA and the Gwendolyn Strong Foundation. 


I braided all the girls' hair, but Catie's turned out the best!


The kids went on the carousel...



and we all drove the bumper cars...


Then a sweet young lady took our photos on the boardwalk. We told several people about SMA and Nicholas that afternoon and it felt really nice to honor him and bring awareness to this devastating condition. 








 I snuck a photo of Hank and Ella holding hands as they walked down the sidewalk. Heart melt!



 At the candy store, we bought some lollipops for the kids and let them lick them when we got back to the house. Nicholas loved lollys, so it was just another way to honor our sweet son, and send his candy kisses all the way to heaven. 


I posted one of these photos on Instagram with the title "just the three of us." Two of my friends commented that in our shadows you can almost make out four people, which warmed my heart and brought a smile to my face. 







 This sunset with the rays of light peeking through was seriously breathtaking.


 Rod and Catie brought sparklers and Ella was thrilled to get to run around the beach with them aflame.






Family fire selfies







After four days in Seaside, we spent our last night in Cannon Beach at the Surfsand Resort near the historical Haystack Rock. 










It was really nice to have a pool and hot tub to enjoy!





At dinner that night, Catie and I shared two margarita buckets...yum!




We had another beach fire that evening and the sunset and sky was stunning...Catie and I made hearts with our arms to show how much we love the ocean.




I am so blessed to call this beautiful woman my friend. Love you, Catie. 


That night I really, really, really wanted to light and release the green sky lanterns I had purchased to honor Nicholas. Sadly it was much too windy, and with the lack of water in the Pacific Northwest, we were afraid to let them go. We did light one to see if it would work, but the wind kept carrying it back to the sand, so we had to extinguish it. We still have some left and will wait for better conditions to try again. 


 Hank and Ella are only nine months apart and were pretty much inseparable this whole trip. Future bride and groom, maybe? 


Rod's mom, Audrey, joined us for the final day in Cannon Beach and treated us all to breakfast. Thank you Mima! 



 Before we got on the road to head back home, the kids squeezed in some beach time, while the moms got to do some shopping. 


 A sleeping kiddo is the hallmark of a perfect beach vacation. 


 Until next year, Oregon coast!